We got the news today that the 4th student in our county committed suicide this weekend.
The 4th student in a month.
The first three were boys from another school, the 4th a girl from my son's school.
In response a girl posted this on facebook today:
"i kinda wish everyone would stop assuming bullying was the reason this happened to (Name left out
). did anyone think that maybe she just wasn't happy?"
I had to read this a few times. But then I started thinking about Jay Asher's
book 13 Reasons Why
It was not one horrible act that caused Hannah, the main character in Jay's book, to commit suicide, it was a string of events. Events that any one of us could find ourselves a part of.
It is easy to push so much off to the bullies, and it is true they are responsible in so many ways. But, the message in Jay Asher's book, at least what I took from it...is that we are all responsible. And we are.
Stop the bullying! I agree with all my heart, but don't sit idle in the process. Go out of your comfort zone and tell someone how great they are. We might not be able to immediately control what others are doing but we have complete control over what we are doing. The easiest way to get rid of a negative is with a positive.
I wish that I could supply copies of Jay's book to every single teenager that I know, and don't.
I wish every teenager, and adult for that matter could read it, had to read it.
We need more organizations like this adding positive to deal with the negative:To Write Love on Her ArmsThough you may not know these kids, we only know them by their names in the paper and on notes being sent home from school, send out prayers. To their families and friends, to the community, and especially to any other kids who may be considering following in their footsteps.
And most importantly, be nice to someone today. Take a minute out of your crazy, busy schedule and tell someone what a great job they are doing, how beautiful they are, that you love them, that YOU care!